Only if you allow them to be.

[ She thinks of Vesemir, honestly. His death signified so much to her — what was at stake, what teachings stayed with her... if she thought of it, wouldn't this be the same thing...? She feels a ping of guilt for such a question and she turns away from him. ]

They're still there, they still happened and it's your duty to carry that legacy and honor it. The people, the struggle, the tragedy...